PRIMAL CHILD SELF

What does your gut tell you?

Following your intuition—that quiet voice within—is one of the most powerful tools for living a fulfilling, authentic life.
Not the people you love.
Not the money in your bank account.
But that innocent, deeply honest part of you that knows exactly what you need.

Breaking The Family Pattern/Dynamic/Stop Codependency

The people we look up to—our parents, mentors, caregivers—don’t always have the answers. Some were never taught how to find them, let alone acknowledge them. When you’re young, you’re impressionable. You absorb the beliefs, values, and habits of the adults around you without question.

That trust becomes your compass.

As an adult, you begin to see the cracks in that foundation. You remember betrayal. You recognize when your needs are dismissed, or your boundaries disrespected. With time, you learn to reclaim your voice. But if you’re not careful, you can be pulled back into that early conditioning—one of innocence, trickery, or even emotional abandonment.

Ask yourself this:

• What if, as a child, you were told not to ignore yourself?
• What if your emotional intelligence was nurtured early on?
• What if you were taught to name your feelings and navigate life with them—rather than around them?

What would your life look like today?

You can’t rewrite the past.
But you can rewrite the legacy moving forward.
That starts by examining your relationships.

Ask the Hard Questions

• Was your relationship with [insert person] healthy—or codependent?
• Did you constantly give without receiving?
• Were you the one always taking without realizing it?
• Was your cup empty more than it was full?
• Do the connections in your life help you grow or keep you stagnant?
• Are you unconsciously holding someone else back?

Here’s the truth:
The people who love us the most often want what’s safest for us—not always what’s right. It doesn’t make them evil. It makes them human.

But this kind of protective love can also become a cage.

They may offer advice rooted in fear, not belief. They may push you to stay in your comfort zone—not because they don’t believe in you, but because they’re afraid of losing you to your growth.

That kind of love comes with conditions.
And true love—unbiased support—should not be conditional on your ability to remain the same.

When Advice is a Mirror

So how do you know when advice is helpful?

Here’s a rule:
Only take guidance from people who have been where you want to go.

A lot of people talk.
But many are just projecting—lecturing you with words they should be telling themselves. I call this mirror shining—the art of reflecting one’s own unresolved emotions onto another person through critique, gossip, or over-giving advice.

Your mind is a sponge.
It absorbs your environment, your conversations, your influences.
Be conscious of who you allow in your orbit.

Who Are You Surrounding Yourself With?

Maybe you’ve outgrown your old crowd.
Maybe gossip and drama no longer resonate because you’re becoming a counselor, a healer, a doctor, a teacher, or simply a wiser version of yourself.

If your values are shifting, let your circle shift too.

We are shaped by who we spend time with. Even if you see yourself as “the good one in the group,” over time you’ll internalize their habits, energy, and mindset.

Don’t lie to yourself out of loyalty.
Cut the cord. Give yourself a chance.

Paving a New Path

When you start making bold, unfamiliar choices—especially those no one around you has dared to make—it will scare people.

They may criticize.
They may distance themselves.
They may try to stop you.

But remember this:
Their fear has nothing to do with your truth.

While it’s okay to consider others’ perspectives, especially in big decisions, be mindful: compromise only works as long as someone remembers the agreement.

Breaking generational cycles is no small task.
It requires fire.
It requires courage.
It requires a Phoenix moment—where you burn down everything that once defined you, reduce it to ash, and rebuild from soul instead of survival.

The Bottom Line

Every person you’ve ever met is only capable of seeing the world through their own lens—formed by their experiences, their limitations, their advisors.

But your story?
That’s yours to write.

Your intuition is not random. It’s your inner compass.
Trust it. Follow it.
Honor it.

And when in doubt, come back to this simple question:
What does your gut tell you?